>Sunday Morning Communication

>Good morning couples! I hope you slept well. When you are awake, think of one thing that you can do for or with your partner, that will make them happy.

I hope you found time this weekend to be alone and enjoy one another! If not, there’s still today. If you are struggling with some kind of issue this weekend, I hope you make time to sit down and honestly discuss your ideas and feelings with one another. Don’t sweep it under the rug. It plants seeds of resentment which bleed out into everyday interactions with one another.

Try using “I statements”, when you share your thoughts. It goes something like this. “I feel” _________, when you ________, and I would prefer or I need for you to________.

When you address your partner in this way, he/she will be more responsive to you and feel less defensive. Always give your partner the benefit of the doubt and ask clarifying questions before deciding what they might be thinking or doing. Remember, you’re not a “mind reader” and every thought you have about another person says something about “you” too! Good luck with that!

As well as doing something nice for one another, don’t forget to do something for yourself today. You will always feel more loving toward your partner, if you are meeting your own needs as well. Besides, tomorrow’s a work day, so get out there and have some fun, even if it’s only for a couple of hours!

Share something you and your partner did this weekend that made you feel connected to one another…

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About Ilissa Banhazl

Ilissa Banhazl is a licensed marriage and family psychotherapist, former grade school teacher and holds a masters degree in reading. She has a private practice in Glendora, CA and lives in the Los Angeles area with her husband and three children. She specializes in adult, adolescent, individual, couple, and family relationship counseling as well as eating disorder treatment and recovery. She facilitates a Women’s Support Group in Glendora as well as a Women’s Disordered Eating & Body Image Group. Ilissa authors 3 therapy blogs, Marriage and Family, Eating Disorders and Group Therapy. You can follow her at FB and Twitter. http://www.ilissabanhazlmft.com or http://www.eatingdisordersgroup.com
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