>Hello Ladies! Ever notice that when your partner is sharing a story, or something important to him, that you tend to interrupt him? Ask him questions? Sort of take the conversation in your own direction??? Well, if you do, it’s okay; it’s just your own anxiety about what he’s telling you.
Next time, try silently calming yourself and simply listening to him in an engaged manner. If you find a moment; add something like, Wow, what a jerk! Or, I’m sooo sorry, that sucks, or well you did the best you could.
These are the kinds of things your partner wants to hear. He needs your interest, your empathy, and your support. Not your anxiety…
Try this next time your partner comes to share something important with you and see how he responds to your new style of communicating.
If you still find that you want to speak with your partner about the topic; you can always address it later at a more appropriate time. Use your “I Statements”, which I refer to in an earlier blog entitled, Sunday Morning Communication, when approaching your partner. He will be more open to what you are saying.
It is your partner’s responsibility to respond appropriately to your comments. You will get answers for your concerns and yet communication is open. Notice how everyone’s needs are met.
Check in next time to read, What Behaviors Work Best for Men, when Their Partner Shares with them…
If you decide to try one of my techniques please share your story! If you’re struggling in your communication with your partner, share that too!
More communication tips to come…
No offense intended in the use of him throughout the article. It is merely to keep the clarity of the piece; and absolutely applies to either gender.