>Date Night

>When’s the last time you had a date night? It’s very important for couples to make time for this, especially if they have been together for a long time or if they have children.

It’s necessary to step out of your daily lives together and spend some quality time focusing on one another and having fun. If you have children, it’s important to make time to step out of the parenting role.

How long has it been since you went out and did the things that you both used to enjoy? When we get busy with life, we tend to forget how important it is to give attention to our relationship. What was it that you both enjoyed doing together, a long time ago?

Here’s what I suggest. Once a week, take turns planning an outing. One week he chooses, the next week, she does. This way both individuals are involved in the planning and both get an opportunity to share their interests. Planning for a date night once a week is optimal, but even once a month is better than nothing. If money is tight right now, find things to do that don’t cost money. Cook dinner at home and rent a movie. Just make sure the kids are at grandma’s house!

If you continue to make time for one another in this way, I believe you will find parts of you that have gone dormant, probably the parts you miss about your relationship. Schedule date night on your calendar in advance, so that it is viewed as any other important event.

So, what are you going to do on your first date and who’s planning it this time?

Tell us what you did on your date!

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About Ilissa Banhazl

Ilissa Banhazl is a licensed marriage and family psychotherapist, former grade school teacher and holds a masters degree in reading. She has a private practice in Glendora, CA and lives in the Los Angeles area with her husband and three children. She specializes in adult, adolescent, individual, couple, and family relationship counseling as well as eating disorder treatment and recovery. She facilitates a Women’s Support Group in Glendora as well as a Women’s Disordered Eating & Body Image Group. Ilissa authors 3 therapy blogs, Marriage and Family, Eating Disorders and Group Therapy. You can follow her at FB and Twitter. http://www.ilissabanhazlmft.com or http://www.eatingdisordersgroup.com
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