>Find the Partner You Want: Make a list and check it twice

>Tired of going solo? Looking for a lover who is also your best friend? Maybe you need to figure out exactly what it is you actually want in a mate. Don’t expect to get all the items on your list checked off by one human person! Be flexible and prioritize. Which items on your list are non-negotiable?

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Ilissa

Wouldn’t it be nice to be able to choose what you want in a partner and get it, like ordering food in a restaurant? “I’ll take one caring person who is ready to have a long-term relationship and wants to cherish me. And can I have a side of a large bank account, please, and I’ll finish with a sports fan that’s athletic. Hmm, what do I want to drink? How about a pint of likes to travel. Thanks, and oh, I’m kind of in a hurry so can you ask the chef to put in my order ASAP?”

When you eat out, you read the menu, get clear about what you want, then order it. Magically, it comes to you. What if you could do the same when it comes to choosing a good partner for yourself? Of course you can’t just choose a partner from a menu, yet you do have a lot more choice than you may realize. You are making choices all the time, either actively or passively. So if you’ve been making choices all along, why don’t you already have what you want in a partner? Perhaps it’s because, like many of us, you haven’t realized that you need to clarify what you want before you can choose well for yourself. When you order food from a menu, you know that you need to specify what kind of salad dressing you want or how rare you’d like your steak. Otherwise, you’ll have to take what the kitchen sends you. It’s the same with relationships. When you get clear about what you desire, you open the way for it to come to you. When it comes to you, you will be able to recognize it and receive it.

Finding the partner who will make you happy is one of the most important things in life. Read More>>>

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About Ilissa Banhazl

Ilissa Banhazl is a licensed marriage and family psychotherapist, former grade school teacher and holds a masters degree in reading. She has a private practice in Glendora, CA and lives in the Los Angeles area with her husband and three children. She specializes in adult, adolescent, individual, couple, and family relationship counseling as well as eating disorder treatment and recovery. She facilitates a Women’s Support Group in Glendora as well as a Women’s Disordered Eating & Body Image Group. Ilissa authors 3 therapy blogs, Marriage and Family, Eating Disorders and Group Therapy. You can follow her at FB and Twitter. http://www.ilissabanhazlmft.com or http://www.eatingdisordersgroup.com
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