>Why Dating During Divorce Is Unwise

>I always suggest that during and after a divorce a person focuses on themselves and of course their children, if there are any. This is the time to practice self-care and grieve your losses. It’s also a time to make your children feel safe in all the chaos. I think it’s very important to look back at the relationship and work towards changes you’d like to make in yourself before you jump into another relationship.
Please read on and learn other important reasons to hold off on dating until your divorce is final.

Ilissa

If you’re thinking about dating during divorce …DON’T! You may think that you are free to start a new relationship once the decision is made to separate or divorce. But it is wise to hold off on the dating scene until after your divorce is finalized for a number of strategic, legal, and emotional reasons.

Strategic reasons not to date before divorce

Emotions are raw during a divorce. When you start seeing someone else, it is like rubbing salt into your husband’s wounds. Believe me, he will likely react to the fact that you are dating by making your life hell during the divorce process. He may seek revenge to compensate for the anger, hurt, and embarrassment that he feels you have caused him.

Even if your husband has… Read More>>>

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About Ilissa Banhazl

Ilissa Banhazl is a licensed marriage and family psychotherapist, former grade school teacher and holds a masters degree in reading. She has a private practice in Glendora, CA and lives in the Los Angeles area with her husband and three children. She specializes in adult, adolescent, individual, couple, and family relationship counseling as well as eating disorder treatment and recovery. She facilitates a Women’s Support Group in Glendora as well as a Women’s Disordered Eating & Body Image Group. Ilissa authors 3 therapy blogs, Marriage and Family, Eating Disorders and Group Therapy. You can follow her at FB and Twitter. http://www.ilissabanhazlmft.com or http://www.eatingdisordersgroup.com
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