Date Night with Your Spouse? Why Would I Do That?

How does that sound? Would you rather wash your hair or watch a ballgame? If so, you are in terrible need of a date night!

We all get caught up in the business of our lives, our jobs our kids, our friends and families, our chores. The one person we forget to make time for is our partner and in turn ourselves.

I can’t tell you how important it is to carve out time, seriously on your calendar for a nice day or night alone with your partner. Relationships need attention just like a garden. Water them and they will bloom. Ignore them and they will die. Here are some suggestions for what you might plan for your date night.

1.  Go to a comedy club. (How long has it been since you laughed so hard that your face hurt?)

2.  Dinner out or dinner at home (ship the kids off to grandma)

3.  Jazz club

4.  Plan a picnic (dates don’t have to be at night)

5.  Go to a museum and have lunch

6.  Plan a romantic evening

7.  See a movie and have dinner (so you can talk)

8. Take a nice long drive and have lunch

The important thing here is that you’re not acting like a mom or dad or a co-worker. You are simply a man and a woman and you will be spending time alone being adults with one another. Let your charming personality out of the closet. Shake off the dust!

You will discover one another all over again and you will have some carefree fun, which you probably would love. Intimacy emotionally or physically goes an awfully long way in the busy week following the date.

Try to schedule it every week or every other week. Take turns planning the date so you both are involved. Choose something he likes or something you like and want to share with him/her, or remember back to the things you did together when you first began dating.

I promise you that date night will spruce up your relationship and your own life. Put your relationship on the top of the list this month and see what happens.

I find most couples try date night and they enjoy themselves, but they slowly fall back into old patterns. Try not to do that because you and your relationship are worth a little of your time and effort. Your friendship and love are the foundation of your family. 

 Please tell me your experience of date night!

Do you need to work on some issues before you plan a date night?

About Ilissa Banhazl

Ilissa Banhazl is a licensed marriage and family psychotherapist, former grade school teacher and holds a masters degree in reading. She has a private practice in Glendora, CA and lives in the Los Angeles area with her husband and three children. She specializes in adult, adolescent, individual, couple, and family relationship counseling as well as eating disorder treatment and recovery. She facilitates a Women’s Support Group in Glendora as well as a Women’s Disordered Eating & Body Image Group. Ilissa authors 3 therapy blogs, Marriage and Family, Eating Disorders and Group Therapy. You can follow her at FB and Twitter. or
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