Flip a Coin to Resolve a Conflict

What do you do when you and your partner can not agree on something? I’m not talking about significant decisions but the smaller disagreements. Ever think about tossing a coin to decide. Sound silly? Give each other a chance to share their opinion and if you can’t agree, what are you going to do that’s fair? I say, flip the darn coin!

As ridiculous as it sounds, sometimes problems within the marriage can be solved by flipping a coin. If there’s an issue that needs to get resolved sooner rather than later and a discussion about it doesn’t seem to be going anywhere, this method can be helpful. Obviously, you won’t want to use this method to resolve any major issues such as whether or not to have another child, but it can be effective for solving smaller issues such as where to go on vacation.

Flip a Coin to Resolve a Conflict

Set a time limit to discuss a problem. For example, decide that for the next 30 minutes you and your spouse will discuss your options. Give each other time to voice your opinions and concerns. If you can’t decide at the end of 30 minutes, flip a coin and leave it up to chance. Most people, don’t like flipping a coin, and much of the time this causes them to resolve the issue within 30 minutes so they don’t get to that point. This also makes a lot of people ensure those 30 minutes are productive as they want to use each minute wisely so they don’t remain undecided and have to flip the coin.

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About Ilissa Banhazl

Ilissa Banhazl is a licensed marriage and family psychotherapist, former grade school teacher and holds a masters degree in reading. She has a private practice in Glendora, CA and lives in the Los Angeles area with her husband and three children. She specializes in adult, adolescent, individual, couple, and family relationship counseling as well as eating disorder treatment and recovery. She facilitates a Women’s Support Group in Glendora as well as a Women’s Disordered Eating & Body Image Group. Ilissa authors 3 therapy blogs, Marriage and Family, Eating Disorders and Group Therapy. You can follow her at FB and Twitter. http://www.ilissabanhazlmft.com or http://www.eatingdisordersgroup.com
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