Is It OK To ‘Fake It’?

The mindset has changed. We don’t think it’s good to fake it even if you’re trying to protect your guy or girls feelings. Communication-in and out of bed will always create a better sex life. It’s okay to tell your partner what works for you. It doesn’t spoil the romance, it actually is more intimate. Besides, if you keep faking it your partner will think he/she is pleasing you and there goes any chance of improving the situation. You may wind up faking for the rest of your life!


Here’s a scene from Seinfeld, the ’90s’ hilarious take on everyday minutae:

Jerry: “You faked it?”
Elaine: “I faked it.”
Jerry: “That whole thing, the whole production, it was all an act?”
Elaine: “Not bad, huh?”
Jerry: “What about the breathing, the panting, the moaning, the screaming?”
Elaine: “Fake, fake, fake, fake.”

Many women pride themselves on their ability to convincingly fake an orgasm, thereby putting an end to less-than-satisfying sex. One researcher at Temple University found recently that about 60 percent of women have feigned climax at least once.

Related: The “M” Word…Why Every Woman’s Gotta Try It Read More>>>

Need to work on communication in and out of bed?


About Ilissa Banhazl

Ilissa Banhazl is a licensed marriage and family psychotherapist, former grade school teacher and holds a masters degree in reading. She has a private practice in Glendora, CA and lives in the Los Angeles area with her husband and three children. She specializes in adult, adolescent, individual, couple, and family relationship counseling as well as eating disorder treatment and recovery. She facilitates a Women’s Support Group in Glendora as well as a Women’s Disordered Eating & Body Image Group. Ilissa authors 3 therapy blogs, Marriage and Family, Eating Disorders and Group Therapy. You can follow her at FB and Twitter. or
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