Could There Be an Upside to Our Kids Over-Exposure to Sex?

Our kids have grown up in an era where sex is everywhere.  The TV shows, the movies, music, the internet, magazines, etc. All giving kids the message that sexy is what you need to be.

Kids are now engaging in sexual behaviors way earlier than we did. That is not okay. It’s very dangerous emotionally and physically. Yet our kids are doing it; even so called good kids”. Does creating a healthy homelife protect your child from this?

As parents, we try to get our children through their teenage years without having sex despite the outside messages and the peer pressure. You do this by talking to your children about sex and self respect and the dangers. Not once, but over and over again throughout the years. Gear your conversation towards your child’s age and maturity.

Since I have a 16 year old daughter, I’ve been searching for an upside to this phenomenon. I think I may have found one. I’m wondering if these kids are going to be more comfortable with their sexuality later in life.

I grew up in a time where sex was not even spoken about in most homes. If you were lucky your parents might have left a book on your bed without discussing it How awkward! Girls were told to be good and not let boys touch them. Good girls don’t do that. What we got from that is a lot of sexually uptight baby boomers.

We’ll see what happens as this next generation matures.

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About Ilissa Banhazl

Ilissa Banhazl is a licensed marriage and family psychotherapist, former grade school teacher and holds a masters degree in reading. She has a private practice in Glendora, CA and lives in the Los Angeles area with her husband and three children. She specializes in adult, adolescent, individual, couple, and family relationship counseling as well as eating disorder treatment and recovery. She facilitates a Women’s Support Group in Glendora as well as a Women’s Disordered Eating & Body Image Group. Ilissa authors 3 therapy blogs, Marriage and Family, Eating Disorders and Group Therapy. You can follow her at FB and Twitter. or
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