Guys- Do You Feel Like Your Running in a Race Called Life?

A picture tells a thousand words. Does this image strike a chord with you? Do you feel like there are so many things to get through in a day that you’re running at full speed? It’s awesome that you want to be a good dad and husband, lover, worker, child’s sport’s  coach, homework helper, house fixer, friend, son/daughter, financial consultant; shall I go on?

If this is your life then stop! Take a nice long deep breath and sit down in a big overstuffed chair and have a little talk with yourself.  Yes, all these things need to get done but could you prioritize and simplify and do everything at a slower pace? Could you include time for exercise and meditation, a nap and breathing? How about a night out with the boys doing something fun and relaxing?

It’s important to have balance in your life. Do you share with your partner about the stress you feel? Have you suggested they take over some of your tasks?  Or are they feeling overwhelmed as well.

If so, then both of you need to sit down and have a talk with one another. What are our priorities and how can we simplify? Are we making time for our relationship and our family? What’s really important to us? Are we enjoying life or simply going (running) through the motions?

How are you sleeping and eating? These two items are extremely important to your stress levels. Stress is a killer.  So if this image reminds you of you; remind yourself that the race never ends. Life is messy and the race can begin every day. You have a choice; do you want to be in a race or do you want to live your life in a healthy engaged manner?

I admire your efforts in joining the race but I want you to be healthy and happy too.


About Ilissa Banhazl

Ilissa Banhazl is a licensed marriage and family psychotherapist, former grade school teacher and holds a masters degree in reading. She has a private practice in Glendora, CA and lives in the Los Angeles area with her husband and three children. She specializes in adult, adolescent, individual, couple, and family relationship counseling as well as eating disorder treatment and recovery. She facilitates a Women’s Support Group in Glendora as well as a Women’s Disordered Eating & Body Image Group. Ilissa authors 3 therapy blogs, Marriage and Family, Eating Disorders and Group Therapy. You can follow her at FB and Twitter. or
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