Follow ilissa’s therapy tips in her weekly Family and Couples Blog!

Therapy Tip #1.

When you and your partner are discussing something and it turns into an argument; someone needs to call a time out. You have 24 hours to get back to addressing the issue. Usually the one who called the time out is the one to readdress the topic. Using humor is always helpful, “Well that didn’t go very well did it!” By now you should know how you feel, what you want, what you could have done differently and you can say it in a calm tone.

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About Ilissa Banhazl

Ilissa Banhazl is a licensed marriage and family psychotherapist, former grade school teacher and holds a masters degree in reading. She has a private practice in Glendora, CA and lives in the Los Angeles area with her husband and three children. She specializes in adult, adolescent, individual, couple, and family relationship counseling as well as eating disorder treatment and recovery. She facilitates a Women’s Support Group in Glendora as well as a Women’s Disordered Eating & Body Image Group. Ilissa authors 3 therapy blogs, Marriage and Family, Eating Disorders and Group Therapy. You can follow her at FB and Twitter. or
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2 Responses to Follow ilissa’s therapy tips in her weekly Family and Couples Blog!

  1. haha…shall definitely try that next time we are on with it. The only catch being that “who would call a time out” too becomes a cause of an argument.

  2. Doesn’t matter who! haha. But the one who calls it is the one who is responsible for bringing it back up within 24 hours. Start with something light like, “Well, that didn’t go very well! Start right in on the topic and forget about the argument. By now you should be aware of what you need and how you can say it in a way that your partner can take it in. Remember marriage is not competition! You want to be right or you want to be happy?

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