Mother- daughter relationships can be extremely loving and yet they can also be very conflictual. Adult daughters as well as younger daughters can suffer in silence because there seems to be a taboo about mothers. You’re supposed to love her no matter what. This kind of thinking makes it difficult for daughters who didn’t have a strong mother daughter bond to find people that they can share these feelings with.
Bring your mom or come yourself and talk about your mother-daughter relationship. Don’t spend the next 40 years struggling with it.
It’s okay to say things about your mom and vise versa that aren’t especially flattering. Learning to talk about these things may enable you to have a better relationship. Accepting reality and limiting expectations may work better in your situation but you’ll never know until you try.