Bullying of Children & Teens in La Verne, Upland, and Claremont!

Written by Ilissa Banhazl-

how to help children and teens stand up for themselves  against a bully

Does your child seem upset about something?-

Don’t feel bad, it’s not just in your city. It’s a problem in Upland, Rancho Cucamonga, Glendora, San Dimas, Chino Hills and all over the country. What do we do if our child is being bullied? Most times they won’t even tell us for fear that we may call their teacher, the principal or the other child’s parents. That may seem even worse than being bullied. Your child may feel the humiliation of that unbearable and they might think it may cause more problems with the bully/bullies. You know what, they may be right. Admire you’re child for having the courage to handle it themselves and tell them so. Let them know you’re there for them if they need your help. If we respect our children we will then respect their wishes. Stay tuned in and ask you’re child how it’s going but not everyday! Let them come to you some times. Don’t put your anxiety on your child. Perhaps you need to have your needs met somewhere else like a good friend, family member or professional.

* Noted is that a parent’s decision to get involved with also depend on the child’s age and if there is physical violence of any kind. In these situations it may be advisable to intercede. With teens, respect their initial attempts to handle on it on their own.

Look for my next blog which will discuss what we can teach our children if they come to us for help- What Behaviors Can We Teach Our Children To Help Them Stick Up For Themselves When Being Bullied 

 

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About Ilissa Banhazl

Ilissa Banhazl is a licensed marriage and family psychotherapist, former grade school teacher and holds a masters degree in reading. She has a private practice in Glendora, CA and lives in the Los Angeles area with her husband and three children. She specializes in adult, adolescent, individual, couple, and family relationship counseling as well as eating disorder treatment and recovery. She facilitates a Women’s Support Group in Glendora as well as a Women’s Disordered Eating & Body Image Group. Ilissa authors 3 therapy blogs, Marriage and Family, Eating Disorders and Group Therapy. You can follow her at FB and Twitter. http://www.ilissabanhazlmft.com or http://www.eatingdisordersgroup.com
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3 Responses to Bullying of Children & Teens in La Verne, Upland, and Claremont!

  1. Faithrises says:

    Reblogged this on Parents on Post and commented:
    Excellent advice. Great Post!

  2. Faithrises says:

    Great post very helpful for these times. Thanks.

  3. Pingback: They have no fear of their parents or respect for others | Barbier Family Blog

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