Why The Bully At Your Child’s/Teen’s School Is A Bully!

Written by Ilissa Banhazl, MFT-

Characteristics of a bully at school

Ever wonder why he is so angry?

So your child is being bullied or maybe your child is the bully. Let’s talk about reasons why a child might bully another child.

Maybe he or she…

– is lonely

– is sad

– is angry

– has problems that he/she doesn’t know how to fix

–  is confusing being a leader with being a bully

– is getting bullied at home

– needs more attention

– isn’t very confident

– doesn’t realize that being hurt is wrong

– is trying to fit in

– is jealous of over people’s happiness (American Girl)

Should we feel sorry for the bully too? He/she is a child too? This list certainly presents a different view of the bully. In a way, he/she is acting out, asking for attention but in negative ways. Share these things with your child if he or she is being bullied.

Schools need to introduce bullying as part of their curriculum. There should be no tolerance and we should be able to help all kids involved through school counseling and family participation.

Please tell your child’s school that you want them to implement this at your school.

For more information on bullying read Stand Up For Yourself & Your Friends www.americangirl.com 

Need help? Is your child bullying or being bullied?

About Ilissa Banhazl

Ilissa Banhazl is a licensed marriage and family psychotherapist, former grade school teacher and holds a masters degree in reading. She has a private practice in Glendora, CA and lives in the Los Angeles area with her husband and three children. She specializes in adult, adolescent, individual, couple, and family relationship counseling as well as eating disorder treatment and recovery. She facilitates a Women’s Support Group in Glendora as well as a Women’s Disordered Eating & Body Image Group. Ilissa authors 3 therapy blogs, Marriage and Family, Eating Disorders and Group Therapy. You can follow her at FB and Twitter. http://www.ilissabanhazlmft.com or http://www.eatingdisordersgroup.com
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