If I asked you to tell me what was wrong with your relationship I’m sure you’d be more clear about what you’re partner needs to work on than you would be about yourself. It doesn’t mean you’re being unfair. It simply is easier to see what our partner does that bothers us because we have a response to it. I tell my clients that they have at least half the chance they can improve their relationship by changing themselves in personal ways. The other half is up to your partner of course. You can’t control both sides!
There’s an article I pass out to couples on their first night of coupler’s counseling. You might want to look it up online at Psychology Today if you’re having any relationship issues. The title is Are You With the Right Mate? What To Do When You Think It’s All A Mistake (And You Will). Consider it a free counseling session. If you can apply it to yourself and your relationship you’ll have taken a first step toward reconciling your differences.
See if you can answer this question and it will tell you and your partner how much self-awareness you have at the present time. “Can you name 3 to 5 (or more) behaviors of your own that have contributed to the difficulties in your present and or past relationship(s)?