As you know, I am a marriage and family therapist and I am also the mother of a seventeen-year-old female. I actually think it’s wonderful that they have improved procedures so that we can safely remove unwanted hair. In our day we spent hours in our bathrooms secretly ridding our bodies of unacceptable hair.
On the news report they interviewed a 14-year-old asking her why she had a bikini wax. She said that she was going to camp for the summer and would be swimming every day. She said that the bikini wax gave her confidence so that she could enjoy and focus on her swimming. To me, that seemed like a very rational and sensible statement. We want her to have that confidence so she can focus on more important things. Presently, it is not uncommon for girls to start menstruating at age 11. Therefore, puberty is forcing us to look at these issues at a younger age.
the business that offered a discount for a bikini wax, upper lip wax, stubborn hair underarm lazering and unibrow waxing etc. commented that unwanted hair can be very shaming and embarrassing for young women. Teasing and bullying is common for girls with unwanted hair. Don’t our kids have enough to deal with? Do they really need to experience the negative emotions about unwanted hair?? Please. Certainly if we lived in a culture that was more accepting of hair we would not have to deal with these kinds of beauty issues; but we don’t.
When I asked my daughter if she thought bikini waxing was sexualizing young women she responded, that is ridiculous. It’s more important that the girl going to camp feels confident that she doesn’t have to worry about unwanted hair when she’s in her swimsuit. That’s my smart girl!
Hearing women in an uproar over the waxing of young girls irked me and seemed ridiculous. Sometimes we get carried away with the over-sexualizing of young girls/women. However, there are many areas where this is true. I just don’t feel that this is one of them.
I’m curious, what’s your opinion on young girls between the ages of 11 and 14 having a bikini wax or other unwanted hair removal procedure? Leave a comment…