Is a Prenuptial Agreement or Separate Finances a Warning of Trouble To Come?

Financial agreements, couples, marriageSome couples find this kind of agreement helpful in their financial situation. However, what I see in my office is couple’s fighting over financial agreements made when they decided to get married. I’m not only talking about prenuptial agreements but also about couples that choose to marry and keep their finances separate. It’s very difficult to get through the pain and resentment of the financial agreements and begin the work on other issues and communication. It’s looks something like this. “Well, you.” “ Well, you!” These couples tend to function in a tit for tat manner. It’s very difficult for couples to get through that to find the love and caring underneath.

Perhaps it’s better to commit to one another in a way that’s what’s yours is mine. Wouldn’t that have a better outcome? It sounds as if you’re in this for the long run.

Of course there are circumstances where couples need to keep certain finances separate. Could be a second marriage with kids or could be an older couple, etc.

If you are thinking about getting married and finances is an issue or if one of you is feeling uncomfortable with the tone of handling the finances; it might be a good time to reevaluate the relationship and perhaps get some pre-marital counseling before you sign on the dotted line!

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About Ilissa Banhazl

Ilissa Banhazl is a licensed marriage and family psychotherapist, former grade school teacher and holds a masters degree in reading. She has a private practice in Glendora, CA and lives in the Los Angeles area with her husband and three children. She specializes in adult, adolescent, individual, couple, and family relationship counseling as well as eating disorder treatment and recovery. She facilitates a Women’s Support Group in Glendora as well as a Women’s Disordered Eating & Body Image Group. Ilissa authors 3 therapy blogs, Marriage and Family, Eating Disorders and Group Therapy. You can follow her at FB and Twitter. or
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1 Response to Is a Prenuptial Agreement or Separate Finances a Warning of Trouble To Come?

  1. Pingback: Why We Have Separate Finances (Sort of) | Edward Antrobus

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