1. Emotionally abuses me by calling me hurtful names like stupid, fat or ugly, etc.. He often uses curse words when speaking to me. He verbally puts me down and makes me feel small and hopeless.
2. Sexually abuses me by forcing sex on me when I refuse.
2. Physically abuses me by hitting, punching, tripping, slapping or pushing me.
3. He is extremely jealous and needs to know where I am at most times of the day.
4. He is possessive and does not like or let me see my friends or family. He tries to isolate me.
If your relationship contains even one of these characteristics then start making a plan to leave. Get support from family, friends, or a professional. Even though we like to keep families together; you do not want your child growing up in this kind of environment. Move in with your parents if you have to. Your child will benefit from having an extended family at this time.
I know, it won’t be easy for you. It’s a very brave thing to do. Unfortunately the reality is that you don’t have a choice. You deserve much better than what you’re getting out of this relationship and certainly your children do too.
Look for Part 2 Next Week– “How to Create a Safety Plan for When You Leave” (Sometimes you have to wait until your partner is outside the home in order exit safely)