Do You Think Your Partner is Cheating On You? Written by Ilissa Banhazl, MFT

KissDo you think your partner is cheating on you? What makes you think so?

Here are some possible warning signs:

1. Losing weight

2. Change in dress

3. Taking and making calls in another room.

4. Not allowing you to see his or her phone or FB page.

5. Unusual charges on your bank, phone or credit card statements.

6. Your partner seems disengaged.

7. Your partner tends to be out most of the time.

8. You can’t reach your partner when they’re out.

9. You’re partner seems uninterested in sex.

What do you do if you think he or she is cheating on you:

1. Confront your partner in an honest way. Have on hand any proof that you have.

2. Decide whether you want to rebuild trust and the relationship.

3. Start couples counseling right away if your partner wants to work on your relationship or if you need individual counseling for support.

How do you know that your partner is really sorry and won’t do this again?

 If your partner owns what they did…

1. Your partner tells you that he or she is truly sorry for the pain they caused you.

2. They own what they did; that they had a choice to tell you that they were unhappy and work on the relationship before going outside of the relationship.

3. They have a real understanding of why this happened, so it will never happen again.

4. They work hard to build your trust, putting up with questions that need answers.

5. You work hard on recovering from the shock and betrayal. (Best done with a therapist)

Would you like to rebuild your relationship with me right now?


About Ilissa Banhazl

Ilissa Banhazl is a licensed marriage and family psychotherapist, former grade school teacher and holds a masters degree in reading. She has a private practice in Glendora, CA and lives in the Los Angeles area with her husband and three children. She specializes in adult, adolescent, individual, couple, and family relationship counseling as well as eating disorder treatment and recovery. She facilitates a Women’s Support Group in Glendora as well as a Women’s Disordered Eating & Body Image Group. Ilissa authors 3 therapy blogs, Marriage and Family, Eating Disorders and Group Therapy. You can follow her at FB and Twitter. or
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