The first thing that I will do is explain about counseling and confidentiality. I’ll ask each of you to tell me what some of the issues are and your individual as well as couple goals. In session, we’ll practice discussing at least one of your issues using your newly learned communication skills.
Each time you come to therapy you’ll have a chance to be heard, ask questions and receive answers from your partner, hopefully in a more loving and authentic manner. You’ll leave the first time with some new skills, a new way of behaving with an old problem and an assignment to continue discussing a topic at home using your newly acquired communication techniques.
In session, I’ll ask you each to describe your childhoods, the short version for now and to describe what your parents relationship was like. So much of our belief system about relationships comes from what we see role modeled growing up. In the first meeting, you’ll learn that there is no right or wrong, just differences. Trying to win or prove that you’re right is not going to bring you any closer.
I’ll ask you to share some of your stressors that are outside of your relationship and see what kind of coping skills you are using. I will share with you other techniques that may be effective for you and your partner.
Before you leave my office, I’ll ask you to share 2 things that you appreciate about the other. It’s always nice to leave on a positive note. If you decide to return then we will dig right in and continue to problem solve the big issues until the relationship is based on a secure friendship and is viewed with a more positive outlook. It starts with hope.
After I meet with you as a couple, I will meet with you each individually so that I can get a better sense of who you are and you can freely share with me whatever it is you need me to know!
Relationships take work. Now you can learn what you need to do to improve your relationship and the overall happiness of your family. Try couple’s counseling today, it works!