But for you, the one who has had your trust betrayed; your world may feel strange and broken. You may even be in shock.
It’s not easy to maneuver the waters of your own life after this kind of event. That is why I suggest that you find a professional to work with. Until then, I suggest you read the book, Learning to Trust After Betrayal: How Could You Do This to Me? It was written by Jane Greer. It will help you cope with your feelings and thoughts as you work your way toward firm ground once again.
Even if you are the one who has been betrayed, it’s important to look at the parts you may have played in the estrangement of your relationship. Owning your part doesn’t mean that your partner had/has the right to go outside of your relationship without telling you that they are unhappy and giving you an opportunity to work on things.
I work with many couples that are able to have long-lasting healthy relationships even after an affair. It’s very possible to find your way back to one another. You have to be willing to do the work.
Until you can get in to see someone for individual or couple’s counseling, try reading this book!