Has Your Partner Been Unfaithful? Learn How to Cope… By Ilissa Banhazl, MFT

Therapy, Counseling After an AffairPart of what you can expect after infidelity is that the person who strayed needs to figure out why they made the choices they did and if they want to stay, how they can rebuild your trust.

But for you, the one who has had your trust betrayed; your world may feel strange and broken. You may even be in shock.

It’s not easy to maneuver the waters of your own life after this kind of event. That is why I suggest that you find a professional to work with. Until then, I suggest you read the book, Learning to Trust After Betrayal: How Could You Do This to Me? It was written by Jane Greer. It will help you cope with your feelings and thoughts as you work your way toward firm ground once again.

Even if you are the one who has been betrayed, it’s important to look at the parts you may have played in the estrangement of your relationship. Owning your part doesn’t mean that your partner had/has the right to go outside of your relationship without telling you that they are unhappy and giving you an opportunity to work on things.

I work with many couples that are able to have long-lasting healthy relationships even after an affair. It’s very possible to find your way back to one another. You have to be willing to do the work.

Until you can get in to see someone for individual or couple’s counseling, try reading this book!

Do you need to talk with me right now?


About Ilissa Banhazl

Ilissa Banhazl is a licensed marriage and family psychotherapist, former grade school teacher and holds a masters degree in reading. She has a private practice in Glendora, CA and lives in the Los Angeles area with her husband and three children. She specializes in adult, adolescent, individual, couple, and family relationship counseling as well as eating disorder treatment and recovery. She facilitates a Women’s Support Group in Glendora as well as a Women’s Disordered Eating & Body Image Group. Ilissa authors 3 therapy blogs, Marriage and Family, Eating Disorders and Group Therapy. You can follow her at FB and Twitter. http://www.ilissabanhazlmft.com or http://www.eatingdisordersgroup.com
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