Where Did Physical Intimacy Go? By Ilissa Banhazl, MFT, La Verne

Couples counseling for sex and communication skills

Remember when it was like this?

Maybe the first question I should ask is how’s your communication? When communication goes, so does sex. Who wants to be close with someone when you feel misunderstood or not able to express yourself?

The first thing you can to do is be open and not judgmental. Accept that there are going to be differences between you and your partner. Don’t let fear stop you from addressing serious topics with your partner. There’s nothing like a good honest conversation to make you feel safe and intimate.

So start communicating and having sex! Physical closeness can either add to honest communication or it can help you to let down your walls long enough to talk.

With all the daily stresses, responsibilities, children and me time; it can be impossible to find time to talk to your partner about important things. Make the time because if you don’t, you and your partner will become estranged. It’s way harder to find your way back to one another than to deal with issues in a timely manner. It’s the same thing with sex. The longer you go without having it, the harder it will be to get back into it.

Remember, the truth will set you free. I truly believe that!

Would you like to work on communication with your partner in couple’s counseling?

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About Ilissa Banhazl

Ilissa Banhazl is a licensed marriage and family psychotherapist, former grade school teacher and holds a masters degree in reading. She has a private practice in Glendora, CA and lives in the Los Angeles area with her husband and three children. She specializes in adult, adolescent, individual, couple, and family relationship counseling as well as eating disorder treatment and recovery. She facilitates a Women’s Support Group in Glendora as well as a Women’s Disordered Eating & Body Image Group. Ilissa authors 3 therapy blogs, Marriage and Family, Eating Disorders and Group Therapy. You can follow her at FB and Twitter. http://www.ilissabanhazlmft.com or http://www.eatingdisordersgroup.com
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