Can’t Stop Fighting? Here’s 3 Things You Can Do To Save Your Relationship! Ilissa Banhazl, marriage and family therapy, San Dimas

Marriage, family, couples' counseling Glendora

Not ready for couples’ counseling but need help?

Many couples are in couples’ counseling but may notice that not much is getting better. That’s probably because you are not ready to discuss your couple issues together and you would both benefit from discernment counseling first.

Discernment counseling is done individually with each partner and the therapist. Sometimes before couples are  ready to discuss couples’ issues they need to first discover more about what they want and need. This is best done one on one with a therapist. Mixing in couple sessions every few weeks is helpful in bringing your individual growth back to the relationship.

Discernment counseling also helps you discover whether you want to stay in your marriage or whether you truly feel it is best to move on and stay friends. If you both decide that you want to commit to working to see if you can save your relationship; we then would switch to predominately couples’ sessions with individual sessions when needed.

It’s a new way to look at marriage counseling!

Here’s 3 things you can do to save your marriage:

1. Meet with a psychotherapist as a couple one or two times.

2. If we find that you cannot discuss issues as a couple without it becoming conflictual, we can arrange individual counseling sessions.

3. Tell your therapist what you feel, think, and need. Through discussion and self-awareness, find out whether you want to leave your marriage/relationship or commit to working on it without any exits for a period of time.

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About Ilissa Banhazl

Ilissa Banhazl is a licensed marriage and family psychotherapist, former grade school teacher and holds a masters degree in reading. She has a private practice in Glendora, CA and lives in the Los Angeles area with her husband and three children. She specializes in adult, adolescent, individual, couple, and family relationship counseling as well as eating disorder treatment and recovery. She facilitates a Women’s Support Group in Glendora as well as a Women’s Disordered Eating & Body Image Group. Ilissa authors 3 therapy blogs, Marriage and Family, Eating Disorders and Group Therapy. You can follow her at FB and Twitter. or
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