Couples, Appreciation Goes A Long Way! Ilissa Banhazl, MFT, Couple’s Therapist, Upland

You do for her, she does for you! Just say thank you!

You do for her, she does for you! Just say thank you!

Did you ever notice that when someone thanks you for doing something for them or tells you that you did a great job, that you feel encouraged to do something nice for that person again? It’s just that simple in marriage too.

Ladies, if you ask your husband to take out the garbage or help the kids with their homework and he agrees, make sure you thank him and tell him how helpful he was; how much you appreciate him and how he made your life easier.

Men generally want to please their women and like to feel they are needed.  It will please him to please you, if you show appreciation. Everyone’s happy!

Now guys, if you ask your wife to pick up your clothes from the cleaners or watch the kids for a few hours so you can watch a sporting event with the guys, and she agrees, don’t forget to say thanks and show your appreciation. You might even offer to watch the kids next time so that she can have some time off to do something fun.

Women generally want to do nice things for their partners, make them feel loved and supported, but they like verbal appreciation as well as acts of service or words of affirmation.

You do for him, he does for you, and everyone is appreciative. This makes for a healthy relationship where partners are willing to work things out and go the extra mile for their partner.

Just remember to say thank you!

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About Ilissa Banhazl

Ilissa Banhazl is a licensed marriage and family psychotherapist, former grade school teacher and holds a masters degree in reading. She has a private practice in Glendora, CA and lives in the Los Angeles area with her husband and three children. She specializes in adult, adolescent, individual, couple, and family relationship counseling as well as eating disorder treatment and recovery. She facilitates a Women’s Support Group in Glendora as well as a Women’s Disordered Eating & Body Image Group. Ilissa authors 3 therapy blogs, Marriage and Family, Eating Disorders and Group Therapy. You can follow her at FB and Twitter. or
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