Is Your Wife or Partner’s Eating Disorder Effecting Your Relationship? 10 Things You Can Do, Ilissa Banhazl, marriage and family therapy, La verne

Does she need your help?

Does she need your help?

If your wife or partner has an eating disorder, it has to be affecting your relationship and family! Are you at a loss with how to help her? Does she seem defensive when you address it? How are you addressing it?

Here are 10 things you can do to help your wife/partner and your relationship/family

1. Use “I Statements” when you share your concern, “I feel concerned about you because I notice you may be struggling with food issues”. Can I help?

2. Ask her if there is anything that you do, that may be contributing to her difficulties? Be open if she shares!

3. Ask if she would like you to help her find a therapist who specializes in eating disorders

4. Tell her about a women’s group in Glendora where she will meet other women who  struggle with the same eating issues.

5. Don’t police her food behavior because she has to make her own commitment to recovery

6. Ask her if couple’s counseling would be helpful

7. Whatever you do don’t judge or embarrass her

8. Be empathic and understand that there are reasons why your partner is struggling.

9. The eating disorder is a symptom of a bigger, usually long-standing issue

10. Compliment her behaviors and tell her how pretty she is. Help build her self-esteem

If she recovers, everyone will be better off…

Here’s more information about eating disorder treatment

If you would  like to speak to me about your wife/partner or your relationship you can reach me at (626) 335-0903. It’s confidential! I’d be happy to guide you…

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About Ilissa Banhazl

Ilissa Banhazl is a licensed marriage and family psychotherapist, former grade school teacher and holds a masters degree in reading. She has a private practice in Glendora, CA and lives in the Los Angeles area with her husband and three children. She specializes in adult, adolescent, individual, couple, and family relationship counseling as well as eating disorder treatment and recovery. She facilitates a Women’s Support Group in Glendora as well as a Women’s Disordered Eating & Body Image Group. Ilissa authors 3 therapy blogs, Marriage and Family, Eating Disorders and Group Therapy. You can follow her at FB and Twitter. or
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