Your Getting Divorced, No Wonder You’re Devastated! Written by Ilissa Banhazl, marriage and family therapy, Claremont, CA

Counseling for couples in Glendora

Divorce Hurts!

Going through a divorce may be one of the hardest things you’ll ever do. You are severing a deep connection even though it may be flawed. You’re going to have to grieve the loss of your marriage as well as what you envisioned for your future; with all the according feelings. Not easy.

This is a great line that I found in an article entitled, Why Divorce Hurts. It was written by Andrea Brosh, PhD and you will find it at

I really like this line, “You are not damaged, just temporarily devastated, and the recovery will come with time”. I also like how the author compares divorce to a child losing the person they depended on.

Individual and or family counseling can be a lifeline at this time in your life. (626) 335-0903.

You don’t have to go through this alone…

For more on this topic read the following article. Here you can read about the natural chemicals that make it difficult for couples to physically separate and recover in

Why Divorce Hurts

September 14th, 2012
By Andra Brosh, PhDDivorce/Divorce Adjustment Topic Expert Contributor

The pain of divorce is often unbearable. The experience can be so awful that you wonder whether it would have been easier to stay married or even to be dealing with some other horrific life event like death. The depth of pain is often surprising, particularly when you know you don’t want to be married anymore. What many people forget is that divorce is just a fancy word masking what is truly a broken attachment between two people. Divorce is more than separating assets and belongings.  It’s the severing of a very strong bond founded on deep feelings of dependency and need. Believe it or not, you developed an attachment to your partner over the course of dating and marriage that connected you on an emotional and physiological level beyond what you realized>>>

For more information on relationship or divorce counseling contact Ilissa Banhazl, marriage and family therapist in Glendora

(626) 335-0903

About Ilissa Banhazl

Ilissa Banhazl is a licensed marriage and family psychotherapist, former grade school teacher and holds a masters degree in reading. She has a private practice in Glendora, CA and lives in the Los Angeles area with her husband and three children. She specializes in adult, adolescent, individual, couple, and family relationship counseling as well as eating disorder treatment and recovery. She facilitates a Women’s Support Group in Glendora as well as a Women’s Disordered Eating & Body Image Group. Ilissa authors 3 therapy blogs, Marriage and Family, Eating Disorders and Group Therapy. You can follow her at FB and Twitter. or
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