Do Your Disagreements Turn Into Big Fights? 5 Things You Can Do to Avoid Fighting… Ilissa Banhazl, MFT, San Dimas, CA

Couples, relationship, marriage counseling, Glendora, CA

Learn how to avoid a fight and have a discussion instead…

Do you find that most times when you and your partner have a disagreement that the conversation turns into a “who can push your buttons more match”! Not effective at all, right? Yet you’re stuck in this negative pattern of communicating.

Here are 5 things you can do to keep your discussions from turning into an angry hurtful fight.

1. Use “I statements” like, I feel _____ when you_______ and I need you to______________.

2. When conversations get unproductive call a gentle time-out. Readdress it within 24 hours in a calm and respectful way.

3. Take turns talking without interruption.

4. Be a good listener. Don’t listen while thinking about what you want to say next! Really hear what your partner is saying.

5. Try to find something that your partner said that you could agree with (if you can) before stating your response.

These tips are a good start but if you think couple’s counseling might help you and your partner to communicate better by learning some new skills, consider couple’s counseling.

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About Ilissa Banhazl

Ilissa Banhazl is a licensed marriage and family psychotherapist, former grade school teacher and holds a masters degree in reading. She has a private practice in Glendora, CA and lives in the Los Angeles area with her husband and three children. She specializes in adult, adolescent, individual, couple, and family relationship counseling as well as eating disorder treatment and recovery. She facilitates a Women’s Support Group in Glendora as well as a Women’s Disordered Eating & Body Image Group. Ilissa authors 3 therapy blogs, Marriage and Family, Eating Disorders and Group Therapy. You can follow her at FB and Twitter. or
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