6 Ways You Can Have a Healthy Discussion With Your Partner About Anything! Relationship, Couples, Marriage Counseling Upland, CA

Listen with empathy and openness

Listen with empathy and openness

If your goal in the discussion with your partner is to win than you’re going to lose every time. See if you can change your goal of winning to understanding. Understanding yourself and your partner and be open to differences. You’re not the same person after all. What may be right for you may be wrong for your partner and that’s okay!

1. Remember that your account of an event is your perception of it.

2. Remember that your perception is based on years and years of personal experiences and you bring that to situations in present time.

3. Learn how to calm yourself when your partner is speaking. Listen with empathy and be open.

4. Learn to repeat what you heard your partner say.

5. Listen with the goal of understanding rather than changing your partners mind.

6. Use language that is not attacking. Speak for yourself only.

If you or your partner need help in developing these skills than marriage or couples counseling would be indicated. Call 626-335-0903 to speak with Ilissa Banhazl, marriage and family therapist, Glendora, CA.

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About Ilissa Banhazl

Ilissa Banhazl is a licensed marriage and family psychotherapist, former grade school teacher and holds a masters degree in reading. She has a private practice in Glendora, CA and lives in the Los Angeles area with her husband and three children. She specializes in adult, adolescent, individual, couple, and family relationship counseling as well as eating disorder treatment and recovery. She facilitates a Women’s Support Group in Glendora as well as a Women’s Disordered Eating & Body Image Group. Ilissa authors 3 therapy blogs, Marriage and Family, Eating Disorders and Group Therapy. You can follow her at FB and Twitter. http://www.ilissabanhazlmft.com or http://www.eatingdisordersgroup.com
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