Are You Afraid to Kiss Your Husband Because You Know It Will Lead to Sex? 6 Things You Can Do? Therapy Glendora, CA

Ask for what you like sexually!

You have to talk about your needs and wants. What’s working? What’s not?

I hear complaints from men about their wives not being affectionate enough. That’s valid in some cases. However, some men don’t value cuddling or pre sex flirting as a precursor to sex. This can be a turn off for women. Remember that women need more than men to get their motors running!

If every time you kiss your wife she knows it’s going to lead to sex, she may not enjoy the simple kiss, hug or cuddle. She may also back away from you and affection.

3 Things You Can Do to Increase Intimacy, Frequency and Satisfaction

1. Tell your partner what happens when he kisses you. Tell him sometimes you want it to lead to sex but other times you just want to be close. Your husband cannot meet your needs if he has no idea what’s in your mind. He’s probably taking it personally and thinks you don’t want him to touch you at all.

2. Spend time in bed or on the sofa just cuddling. Men, you may surprise yourself in how much you can enjoy this.

3. Take turns touching each other everywhere but the sexual parts. 20 minutes each.

4. Flirt with each other throughout the week building to sex.

5. Leave each other sexy and sweet notes.

6. Spend time sharing important things like events, personal thoughts and feelings. Create a feeling of safety.

*You must communicate your truths to one another because it is possible to resolve this kind of issue.*

There’s no reason why you can’t make out with your spouse sometimes and other times go all the way!!”

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About Ilissa Banhazl

Ilissa Banhazl is a licensed marriage and family psychotherapist, former grade school teacher and holds a masters degree in reading. She has a private practice in Glendora, CA and lives in the Los Angeles area with her husband and three children. She specializes in adult, adolescent, individual, couple, and family relationship counseling as well as eating disorder treatment and recovery. She facilitates a Women’s Support Group in Glendora as well as a Women’s Disordered Eating & Body Image Group. Ilissa authors 3 therapy blogs, Marriage and Family, Eating Disorders and Group Therapy. You can follow her at FB and Twitter. or
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