I’m Curious How Couples’ Counseling Works; We’ve Never Done This Before, 10 Things to Expect, Ilissa Banhazl, marriage and family therapy, Glendora & Upland, CA

Couples, relationship, marriage counseling, Glendora, CA

Learn how to avoid a fight and have a discussion instead…

I receive calls from either one in the couplehood inquiring about couple’s therapy. What will it be like they wonder…

Here’s exactly how couple’s counseling works:

1. First, I will invite you both to attend a session or two together.

2. When we meet I will ask you each take a turn describing why you have come now to counseling and what you hope to accomplish.

3. You may choose to share one or two issues and I will teach you how you can be more effective in your discussions.

4. I will send you home with new skills such as communicating by using “I statements”. For example, I feel______ when you_______ and I need for you to_______.  You can practice using this technique throughout the week. Fill in the blanks now and see what comes up for you.

5. When you return we can discuss your successes and obstacles from the prior week and work together to resolve any old or new issues or concerns.

6. In the third session, I will invite one of you to come in by yourself to share about yourself, your situation and your hopes and concerns.

7. In the fourth session, I will invite the other person to come in for an individual session for the same reason. Of course this timeline will vary because every couple is unique.

8. Unless there is a reason to meet individually, you will return to your couple session together the following week.

9. From then on we will meet as a couple but individual sessions are possible when needed. Everyone is to feel included and supported.

10. Couples meet weekly, every other week or monthly. We will create your own individuated treatment plan.

If you feel like your relationship is stuck and unsatisfying; consider couple’s therapy as a way to move forward and resolve problems (626) 335-0903


Visit my radio page to listen to two couple’s talk about their relationship.


About Ilissa Banhazl

Ilissa Banhazl is a licensed marriage and family psychotherapist, former grade school teacher and holds a masters degree in reading. She has a private practice in Glendora, CA and lives in the Los Angeles area with her husband and three children. She specializes in adult, adolescent, individual, couple, and family relationship counseling as well as eating disorder treatment and recovery. She facilitates a Women’s Support Group in Glendora as well as a Women’s Disordered Eating & Body Image Group. Ilissa authors 3 therapy blogs, Marriage and Family, Eating Disorders and Group Therapy. You can follow her at FB and Twitter. http://www.ilissabanhazlmft.com or http://www.eatingdisordersgroup.com
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