The Unspoken System In Your Family: 3 Benefits When Talking About It With One Another, La Verne, CA

Individual, couple, family, lesbian couples therapy, counseling, Women's Support Group

Would you like to improve the lives of the people you love?

There is an unspoken rule in your family. We all have our roles and typical familiar interactions. By now, some of your behaviors are conscious but others are pretty much unconscious and involuntary and put in place to keep the system flowing. If everyone’s happy and feels that their needs are being met then you probably have a pretty healthy family system.

If however, there are break downs, disconnections and arguments; your family might consider taking a look at the system as a whole and it’s parts to see where the “disconnects” are happening.

What are the benefits to talking about your family relationships?

Benefit #1

1. In family counseling, everyone gets a chance to speak their truth without interruption and is given the utmost respect and acceptance for their feelings and their own personal view of the family system.

Benefit # 2

Ideas are exchanged using more effective tools for communicating so that we can get to the heart of the matter and make any desired changes that will improve each person’s personal experience of the family as well as the betterment of the family system as a whole. My job is to facilitate this kind of healthy verbal exchange while supporting each family member.

Benefit # 3

Here’s a bonus! Chances are if you improve your relationships and communication within your family; you will carry these healthier behaviors into any relationships you engage in outside of your family.

*It’s a win win situation. Are you ready to get your family healthy and back on track for all the wonderful things that a family can experience together?

If so, you can reach me, Ilissa Banhazl, MFT at (626) 335-0903. My practice is in Glendora, CA. You can also email me at, or visit my website at

If you have a quick question about some dynamic in your family system; leave your question, as a comment and I will respond to it the best I can. This is not to be considered counseling.

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About Ilissa Banhazl

Ilissa Banhazl is a licensed marriage and family psychotherapist, former grade school teacher and holds a masters degree in reading. She has a private practice in Glendora, CA and lives in the Los Angeles area with her husband and three children. She specializes in adult, adolescent, individual, couple, and family relationship counseling as well as eating disorder treatment and recovery. She facilitates a Women’s Support Group in Glendora as well as a Women’s Disordered Eating & Body Image Group. Ilissa authors 3 therapy blogs, Marriage and Family, Eating Disorders and Group Therapy. You can follow her at FB and Twitter. or
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