Well, of course when anyone is suffering from depression it’s not a good thing. However, it seems to me that this new information shows that men are more involved in childcare than ever. Now that’s a good thing!
However, now that recent research shows that dads with young children are suffering from depression; just like women have always done, we have to set in place certain behaviors to help avoid dad becoming depressed.
We all know that having kids is the best, but it’s also a stressful time in life. Usually we focus on the baby when he or she is born and forget about mom. Now dad comes behind baby and mom, so who’s thinking about him?
Here are some tips for lessening or avoiding dad (and mom’s) feeling depressed:
1. Awareness: Dad is going to have feelings too and mom needs to be aware and make time for his needs too. This is actually a great time for both of you to have daily “check in” with one another and share whatever you’re feeling. It will help both of you deal with the stresses as a team.
2. Make sure dad has time for himself. Encourage him to go go out with his buddies from time to time.
3. Try to balance the responsibilities of childcare. Of course if one parent is home and the other is working the responsibilities will suit the situation.
4. Ask for help from loved ones so the two of you can out and just be a “couple”. Keep your relationship a priority…
5. Get plenty of exercise and fresh air, together. Take walks, hold hands and talk. It’s okay to invite the baby along sometimes!!
If you find that right now having children is just stressing you out and you feel like you need support to maneuver through this new time in your life; consider counseling.