Being A Mother on Mother’s Day & Every Day! 3 Stages, Counseling Glendora, By Ilissa Banhazl, MFT

Happy Mother's Day!

Happy Mother’s Day!

Probably the most wonderful and toughest job you’ll ever have; probably the most important.

The way we are as a mother changes as our children change through their developmental stages. A mother must be keen to what her child’s changing needs are and she needs to adjust her parenting to fit that.


1. Babyhood-“Constant care”, engager, stimulator, safety provider, loving

2. School Years– Chauffeur, problem solver, hand holder, teacher, playmate, doctor, cheerleader, party thrower, role model, homework helper

3. Young Adult- – Supportive, encouraging, guiding, worrying, role model, driving instructor

Yes, a mom has to make a lot of changes to keep up and support the best development for her child. She has to loosen the reins slowly so her child can go out into world and cope. Probably the most wonderful and toughest job you’ll ever have; probably the most important.

It’s not easy on mom watching her little baby grow up and need her less and less even though this is her goal. Kids move away, get careers, they marry and have their own children.

That’s why its important for moms to keep something for themselves so that when their children leave the nest they still have a life to go back to.

Your job as a mom never ends even after they leave home. It is still your job to guide, love and support them when asked or when you are concerned. Even a 40 year old needs a mom sometimes!

If you did a good job they will want to keep you in their lives for as long as you live. Someday they will care for you as you cared for them…

So, enjoy your mother’s day, take it all in. It’s different receiving when you’re so used to taking care of everyone else. But remember, when you see them scampering around preparing for your special day that you’re only getting back the love that you have already given out…

Happy Mother’s Day!




About Ilissa Banhazl

Ilissa Banhazl is a licensed marriage and family psychotherapist, former grade school teacher and holds a masters degree in reading. She has a private practice in Glendora, CA and lives in the Los Angeles area with her husband and three children. She specializes in adult, adolescent, individual, couple, and family relationship counseling as well as eating disorder treatment and recovery. She facilitates a Women’s Support Group in Glendora as well as a Women’s Disordered Eating & Body Image Group. Ilissa authors 3 therapy blogs, Marriage and Family, Eating Disorders and Group Therapy. You can follow her at FB and Twitter. or
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