Veterans Adjusting Back To Civilian Life- 9 Things to Address in Therapy

vet home hug daughter“After a year of not seeing my father after he deployed to Afghanistan, he surprised me in school when he returned home. I went to sit down in my desk and he was waiting there in my seat. Not many people get to experience something like this; but I am so luck to have my daddy back. Welcome home, Dad. I’m glad you’re home safely.” Source: Tumblr

When you return from a military environment it may feel awkward and disorienting at first. This is only natural since you have been in an extremely different environment with a different set of rules.

Your experiences may have been traumatic and you might still be dealing with the effects of your experience. Retelling your story can cathartic and healing.

You need someone objective to talk to outside family and friends until you feel more like yourself.  In therapy, you can learn new coping skills for temporary anxiety, depression or PTSD/flashbacks.

You may choose to invite your partner or other significant people to join you in session, if you’d like to work on these relationships. It can be challenging to integrate the new you into the old relationships.

It’s tough on your loved ones too, so they might benefit from a few sessions of counseling as well.

Here are 9 areas that might be beneficial to take a look at in a therapy setting.

1. Marriage

2. Career

3. Education

4. Sex

5. Parenting

6. Flashbacks

7. Finances

8. Fear and trust in your environment (looking over your shoulder, sitting facing the door)

9. Communicating with civilians

Each person and family is unique so you may have other things to add to this list.

Please leave a comment and tell me….

If you’d like help with your adjustment you can contact me at 626-335-0903 or at

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About Ilissa Banhazl

Ilissa Banhazl is a licensed marriage and family psychotherapist, former grade school teacher and holds a masters degree in reading. She has a private practice in Glendora, CA and lives in the Los Angeles area with her husband and three children. She specializes in adult, adolescent, individual, couple, and family relationship counseling as well as eating disorder treatment and recovery. She facilitates a Women’s Support Group in Glendora as well as a Women’s Disordered Eating & Body Image Group. Ilissa authors 3 therapy blogs, Marriage and Family, Eating Disorders and Group Therapy. You can follow her at FB and Twitter. or
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