Why Are we Arguing So Much?

Couples, relationship, marriage counseling, Glendora, CAYou’re arguing so much because you’re not being your authentic self and speaking your truth. You’re acting passive aggressively instead of using your words because your afraid. Fear of what may happen after one speaks the truth causes couples to keep pushing topics under the rug. It’s safer. But is it? Not at all. The explosion will come later. It’s just slowly picking up steam under the rug.

What would happen if we lifted the rug and dusted it off? Probably the truth would emerge; real feelings and real acceptable thoughts. Not things that need to be hidden under a rug.

Most times it’s not what you’re arguing about. It’s more about the way that you communicate with one another.  Some couples may have some real obstacles to address.  Mindful communication teaches you how to share your truth in a respectful way so that no bombs go off.

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About Ilissa Banhazl

Ilissa Banhazl is a licensed marriage and family psychotherapist, former grade school teacher and holds a masters degree in reading. She has a private practice in Glendora, CA and lives in the Los Angeles area with her husband and three children. She specializes in adult, adolescent, individual, couple, and family relationship counseling as well as eating disorder treatment and recovery. She facilitates a Women’s Support Group in Glendora as well as a Women’s Disordered Eating & Body Image Group. Ilissa authors 3 therapy blogs, Marriage and Family, Eating Disorders and Group Therapy. You can follow her at FB and Twitter. http://www.ilissabanhazlmft.com or http://www.eatingdisordersgroup.com
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