You’re arguing so much because you’re not being your authentic self and speaking your truth. You’re acting passive aggressively instead of using your words because your afraid. Fear of what may happen after one speaks the truth causes couples to keep pushing topics under the rug. It’s safer. But is it? Not at all. The explosion will come later. It’s just slowly picking up steam under the rug.
What would happen if we lifted the rug and dusted it off? Probably the truth would emerge; real feelings and real acceptable thoughts. Not things that need to be hidden under a rug.
Most times it’s not what you’re arguing about. It’s more about the way that you communicate with one another. Some couples may have some real obstacles to address. Mindful communication teaches you how to share your truth in a respectful way so that no bombs go off.