Instead of saying, “I can’t stand when you…” Try using an “I Statement“.
I feel irritated and disrespected when you leave your underwear on the floor because I work very hard to keep the house nice and I would appreciate it if you could put your underwear in the hamper from now on.
It would be hard to say no to that. Make sure to show appreciation for your partner’s cooperation. This means they care about your feelings and wants. However, they won’t know unless you tell them! It must be done in a kind and respectful manner.
Fill in your own blanks and try it on your partner.
I feel _________________ when you____________________. I would appreciate it if you could___________________________________.
Let me know what happens!