Well, not never! However, when you want to know more about something your teen mentioned in passing or check in to see how your teen is doing; the number 1 best time is when they feel like talking about it with you! (of course major concerns must be addressed immediately in a respectful way)
The next most important thing to remember is when your teen starts talking, don’t use this moment to teach or to express your own ideas or concerns, nor should you ask lots of questions. That’s the kiss of death!!
If you’re lucky enough that your teen wants to tell you about their private world, then take time to learn how to listen in a parental way. Learn how to simply listen and show little emotion, unless you’re showing it in a supportive way. (Counseling for Parents)
Remember this the next time your teen trusts you enough to come share something with you.
*If your teen never shares anything personal with you then most likely you’re doing something that is shutting them down.
Try a new approach!