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Unhappy In Your Relationship? Could It Be You? 6 Ways To Get Happy!

Unhappy? So things have been kind of rocky lately. You keep getting into the same old arguments and behaviors. You love one another but can’t figure out why the relationship is suffering. Could it be that you’re not happy with … Continue reading

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6 Things You Can Do To Improve Your Relationship When You’re an Empty Nester, Counseling, La Verne, CA

Empty nesters do go through a transition. It’s weird. No kid down the hall in his/her room lying on their bed staring at their laptop. Well, at-least they were¬†home for a bit before running out with friends. You could see … Continue reading

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6 Ways You Can Have a Healthy Discussion With Your Partner About Anything! Relationship, Couples, Marriage Counseling Upland, CA

If your goal in the discussion with your partner is to win than you’re going to lose every time. See if you can change your goal of winning to understanding. Understanding yourself and your partner and be open to differences. … Continue reading

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5 Ways We Handle Difficult Topics in Therapy/Counseling; Would You Rather Discuss it in My Office? Ilissa Banhazl, La Verne

If you find that communicating with your partner about difficult topics at home, spirals into a fight; then discussing it my office might be helpful for you. Here’s what we will do: 1. Come prepared with a topic to discuss. … Continue reading

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Couples, Appreciation Goes A Long Way! Ilissa Banhazl, MFT, Couple’s Therapist, Upland

Did you ever notice that when someone thanks you for doing something for them or tells you that you did a great job, that you feel encouraged to do something nice for that person again? It’s just that simple in … Continue reading

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You Bring It, We’ll Solve it! Couples Counseling…by Ilissa Banhazl, MFT

When a couple calls to schedule an appointment they often ask, “What will couples counseling be like?” It’s a great question. I tell them, “When you first come in I’ll explain about counseling and confidentiality. Then, I’ll ask both of … Continue reading

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A Tip For Better Communication With Your Partner, from Ilissa Banhazl, MFT

When I observe couples discussing an important issue I notice behaviors that make it difficult to resolve issues. First I notice that when the discussion becomes somewhat emotional because partners are passionate about their points, couples will interrupt the other … Continue reading

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